MANASA and ME....

......20th August 2009....the day on which i and Manasa started our journey of togetherness...being bound in wedlock....9 years and still going....
Married life is a mixture of emotions- feelings, love, care, affection, trust, understanding and misunderstandings,possessiveness, togetherness, outrages, patch ups...and much more. The combinations look improper at times...in the cocktail of life...but its always pleasure to taste it. Strange thing is that we can expect all from one...and be sure of getting it...at one time or the other...but the suspence is which emotion comes when...and how? We never know whether the thing we like the most is likable to the other person in our life or not...and we dont even know what will be the responses and reactions to it! But we still like to love the one we hate at times...applause the same person whom we criticise at times...Hug the same person whom we avoid at times...Live with the person whom we never knew...and know the person whom we dont want to at times...We learn so many things and take so much of time to realise that the other person matters in life and the life is incomplete without him or her.
But the institution of marriage and the concept of family is the greatest one basing the culture and tradition of our country...Come what may...at the end of the day...Husband gaurds the wife and wife supports her husband...not unwillingly...but unknowingly...many times. But how wonderful would be our lives if we do things for our partner knowingly and they reciprocate knowingly too. We spend our whole life time admiring the qualities of our partner inwards and denying it outwards, Wanting to express our love inwards and controlling it outwards. At last we end our lives thinking that we are each others necissities...and would never have felt that we are each others responsibilities and a reason to live. Before we realise the crux of the story it would have been too late.
Should we realise the importance of the other in the absence of the other and not until then?
Should we be so egoistic to take chances to express our love and care waiting for 'who first'.....?
Never....Life is not about competition...its about compromises, its not about our success...its the feeling of happiness in others success, Life is all about complementing each other...not creating complications to each other, Life is not conquering...its about giving and sacrificing, Life is not hatred...its extreme love.
As all husbands and wives... i and my wife Manasa too lived and are living in cocktail of emotions. We learnt and shared many things between us...and we have to learn many things from each other...for the rest of our lives. For me she is the best friend philosopheer and guide apart from being a wife. On the eve of our wedding anniversary i would proclaim my selfless love to her...which many times she would have loved to hear...and missed it from me...and i would have liked to tell and tried to tell and might have lost her notice. I respect her as much as i have loved her. The love, care, affection, support....and everything she has given me....only she could have given. She has at many times compromised for me, accepted some of my mistakes and corrected many...and has sacrificed somethings for me which i would not disclose. She accepted many of my relations and understood what i need...she probably learnt that i am a person who likes to expand the empire of relations...and i am happy...and will be happy if she is with me...always and she will...because she knows me by heart...and that i consider any new person coming into our web of relations as ours and not mine...
I would certainly not thank her for being there in my life as it would be an insult to her...
If you can reach the infinity point of love dear...i will be waiting for you...
With Love.... Raghu
Happy Wedding Day............