Children are generally attached to their mothers rather than fathers.Fathers are generally tough towards their children atleast until they grow up and stand on their own legs.They want their children to grow up disciplined.Its not that the mothers dont do that...but they are more forgiving at situations.Fathers get annoyed when their child does a mistake and take harsh steps and go to the level of punishing them...of course with a genuine reason...which the child will not understand.By the time the father looks his child as a friend at their teenage...it will be too late for the poor father...because a rebel has already developed and matured in the mind of the child.. who during the course of his growth and development has built and fortified a strong concept within himself that the father is a punisher and a terminator...and can never be a friend.But who should tell the children that it was the same father who made them walk by holding the fingers... who made them talk...who saw dreams for them and put their hearts out day and night earning to accomplish the dreams into reality...who loved them and could never express or their love and care was masked by their tough attitudes.Most of the fathers dont speak to their children especially their sons and the sons to their fathers.They dont sit and sort it out...instead go on stretching the difference of opinions and conflicts as if they are the greatest enemies.They communicate with each other in an indirect way or through a mediator...may be mother.. wife...or...whoever.Generations have gone...but the gap is yet to fill. Its not that a father should not hear to what his son has to tell and adhere to his stubborn concepts of what he thinks and means. Its not a question of winning and losing. The father should also try to understand that the trends are changing and he should be giving friendly suggestions rather than implementing rules and regulations. The kids on the other hand can hear to what their father is trying to tell rather than discarding the theory before it is framed..because no father will think ill for his kids...maybe the experienced suggestions come handy!. Luck are those fathers whose kids consider them as their friends philosophers and guides and try to live on their guidelines and morals.Lucky are those children whose fathers have time for them...to play with them...to enjoy with them...to teach them...to go outing with them...and understand that todays children require a bit of freedom and liberty...of course conditioned. Fathers...try to get involved in each and every aspect of your childrens life...but dont ever make them feel that you are interfering into their affairs.Give them freedom and allow them to grow up as an individual...because God has given potential to every one and we can only motivate them but not control and command them. Condition the freedom in such a way that the children keep thinking that they are given liberty and at the same time do not tresspass the ethical way of life.Everything lies in managing things.Trying to understand,helping,lending moral support,motivating,loving and caring your kids may either reduce or close the generation gap.Life is living happily on the backdrop of compromises...and if its these little compromises which make us live happily...why not make them?
My Father: Seetharama Sastry...ya my loving dad....I have alwys considered him as my hero and role model.He has always inspired and motivated me.He is extraordinary to me because i have seen him struggling day and night without rest to give us what we want and make us what we are today.Every bit of my today is his.He is a principled man...bit moody...but having unbound love for me in his heart.He is always concerned about me.We have not expressed the best of love and care for each other...but i feel we have a sensitive and sensible relationship the extent of which neither of us know.As typical father and son we have strong differences of opinions where our tracks dont meet anywhere..but we know how much we love and care for each other.I take this opportunity to tell him.. 'Dad I Love You....Be My Dad Everytime..'Sorry for all the unexpressed feelings...i am poor at that.Iam blessed that you are my father.
My Father In Law: K.N.Srinivas...known by all his dears and nears as Ka.Na.Sri...is a father in law by relation...but i share a different relationship with him by heart.I have always considered and respected him as my father and when i call him Appa...i mean it.He too has always considered me as his son.He is something special..very friendly..very lively..and always smiling from heart which soothens those in his company and i am no exemption.The achievements he has made and the ethics he has followed in his life has always inspired and motivated me.He has fought his life and has made life look smaller.I love you dad..
My Son: Abhinav...Appu as i call him with love and many call him by this name aswell.He has given meaning to my life..and has made me a proud father.He is a silent kid..only in front of me and has a face off...very active and notorious in the out of coverage area of his father...thats me. This behaviour of his always gives me a feeling...Am I an object of fear for him?...Will it develop a gap between us in future??... But he answers thes questions beautifully by his silent love and care which only i can understand.I have given him all the liberty..love..care..affection..and everything.I see that i fulfil all his dreams before he wakes from his sleep.His childish mannerisms doesnt suit his age many a times...that may be the reason that he has so many people to love him always...anywhere.He seems to be playful always but his performance in his academics make us proud.I never asked him to read or write because as a father i have identified his inner potential of being a genius.I feel proud when people especially his teachers praise him telling that he is a boy with immense potentials and learning abilities.My dream is to see him on the top of the world and i know that i will see him doing that.He has made me realise the values of life and i learnt a lot from him.I always wish that i would have been like him... i am trying...!Love you Appu....
Kids in my family:
Madhurya:She is in relation my sister in law.But i have always considered her as my eldest daughter.I have recieved that status and respect from her too.She is a perfectionist and likes right things to be put in right places.Good by heart and so caring...
Rachit:Madhuryas elder son...nothing less to me.Boss..as i call him..is really a boss of our home. Bit dominating and loud...but so smooth by heart...lovely kid...He has a special affection towards me...right from the beginning...
Archita:.....what to tell about my baby darling...the way she giggles when i call her baby... Madhuryas second child...first and the only girl child of this generation in our family...adorable by everyone... looks like she takes advantage of our love even in future and will rule all of us..and we too hope that happens...an angel of love in our family...
Samarth:Son of my brother Sudhi...lovely kid.I am less exposed to this kid as we rarely meet due to our busy schedules.I still miss this child....
Kids who have made me feel like a Father: Unknown yet well known...Unrelated yet related by destiny and heart.Some children have given me the value place & respect of a father though they were not related to me directly.They are my destinys children and have become an inseparable part of my life today.They are Gods best gifts to me.They came into my life unknowingly and gave me the selfless love and affection when it mattered.It all happened during my post graduation days in Koppa-Chickmagalur dist.All the students especially those of the 2008-09 passout batch loved and cared me giving me the parental respect when iwas away from my family for 3 years.They never made me miss my family.They are related to me in the same way even today.I would like to mention a few names of the kids who are equal to Abhi in all aspects for me....
Rajesh...Hero as i call him.Simple..stylish..hearty..childish..lovable..charecter.I consider him as my son because he has been the same to me.He taught me to be a better father.I can claim that we dont have any secrets between us..atleast from his side.His heart is an open book..and he has shared all his good and bad moments with me.I hope to do the same with Abhi.He is a dreamer and accomplisher too.He dares to conquer the world and i bless him to do it.Rich by goodness..
Archana...Beta as i call her.Simple..disciplined..principled..beautiful little girl.She has fulfilled the place of daughter in my life.More over at times she has been motherly to me in the way she exerts her rights over me.I call her Angel too..and truely she is.
Bindhiya...Magu as i call her with love.She is a kid and very darling.Innocent..fearful..very sensitive..yet sensible.She was the first child to express that i looked and behaved like her dad.. though many might have thought.She cares me like a daughter does..feels for me too.
Sania...Yet another angel in disguise.Very naughty...yet loving.
Shruthi...A beautiful little girl..in thoughts and mind too.Very caring..and commanding too.
On the eve of Fathers Day...I dedicate this blog to my dad..& father in law.I also humbly dedicate it to my loving son Abhi and all those kids who have made me feel proud and blessed in the role of a father.Parenthood is Gods best gift and we should live and enjoy it every moment and make our children realise that they will be in our place some day...and they have to deliver goods.Every child gets an opportunity to be a parent and every son has to be a father tomorrow. Come lets teach and guide our kids to be better parents of tomorrow and see the dream of each generation loving the other sorting all the differences..
Pithru Devo Bhava.......
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